Yeah, it happens like this; I use Reliance to call India and there I can store 10 numbers for easy dialing. The 10 digit numbers can be accessed by entering a 3 digit code. For remembering the codes, it was advised to give a code that you can associate with the person you are calling, for eg: Dad has 3(D)2(a)3(D), by the letters associated with the numbers, like wise Brother is 2(B)7(R)6(O).
And so it came to this that when I wanted to get a code for my mother, I ended up having MOM or 666 as the code.
And every time I dial the number I think I am calling the devil and may be I would end up in a different world as happened with Brandon in Bedazzled :)
Once a friend asked whom are you calling, and I said "The Devil". Amazingly he replied back..."Mom?"
Hmm, others are using reliance too....
05-June-2007
Finally I saw that RI Call allows 2 digit codes too, and hence I updated my Mom's code to 62..(Ma...). And I convinced myself that my Mom doesn't represent the devil. Just that I was a little dumb.
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
One of the everlasting debates!
Hmm its hard to get the topic from the title. No, its not the Egg first or the chicken debate. It's the arranged marriage vs. love marriage thing.
Quiet a lot has been heard by me, although I wanted to put my point(s) forward sometimes I never did, precisely because I was not sure. Its like asking you want to eat at home or wanna go out? Kinda depends on the situation ain't so?
Anyway, have heard a lot about the downsides of the arranged marriage, specifically from the Americans rather westerners. You know the same old stuff, "Yeww, you don't get to know the person beforehand whom you want to marry? And you mate on the first day you meet?" Kind of awkward ain't it? Because half of the westerners do so, you know have sex on the first date. Only they don't stay with each other afterwards. One point I would like to make clear here, in arranged marriage, you don't mate on the fist day, speaking about the tradition in my place. It takes a whole 4 days! and till that time the bride is accompanied by one of the family members, to see that she is comfortable at the new place anyway.
Well, the most common plus point of A.M. is that the L.M.s have a greater rate of fall outs than A.M.s. You would be annoyed that in Hindu culture there is no word meaning divorce or talaaq. The words used now are just formed to mean that. Simply because the concept didn't exist in that culture.
Okay, now after all the talking I want to explain this is a business terms, may be it would help the west side to apprehend. You know there is something called a brand value. Its like when you go to a Nike showroom, go through all the assortments and then choose which one you want, whether you want for jogging, basketball etc. You may not like all the textures, or styles but you know it gonna give you back what it worth. You make some adjustments for the style if needed as you go for the durability.
On the other hand, you may also see a very attractive, stylish shoe on a China market, you were it feel comfortable and buy it. Now, if you are lucky that might last as long as a Nike shoe, or it might give up in a week. But the moment you tried it at the store, you know you wanted that.
Hope you get the point, simply by putting up with someone for 1 year doesn't guarantee you know the person inside out, there would be other things that miss out. As far as I have seen people, that 1 or 2 year all those guys do is impress each other. The problem starts when they take those actions for granted.
Whereas in arranged marriage, you know its done, you have to put up with it. Well I agree its almost always the girl at the receiving end, we have to work on that. And believe me, with the kind of rituals we have in a Hindu tradition, you wont go for a second marriage. You know the marriage lasts for a fucking 10 days? And forget about the amount of money spent.
Having said all that, I would still like to go for a love marriage, if I find someone who can love me. But if not arranged marriage is not a curse, it's a blessing in disguise.
Quiet a lot has been heard by me, although I wanted to put my point(s) forward sometimes I never did, precisely because I was not sure. Its like asking you want to eat at home or wanna go out? Kinda depends on the situation ain't so?
Anyway, have heard a lot about the downsides of the arranged marriage, specifically from the Americans rather westerners. You know the same old stuff, "Yeww, you don't get to know the person beforehand whom you want to marry? And you mate on the first day you meet?" Kind of awkward ain't it? Because half of the westerners do so, you know have sex on the first date. Only they don't stay with each other afterwards. One point I would like to make clear here, in arranged marriage, you don't mate on the fist day, speaking about the tradition in my place. It takes a whole 4 days! and till that time the bride is accompanied by one of the family members, to see that she is comfortable at the new place anyway.
Well, the most common plus point of A.M. is that the L.M.s have a greater rate of fall outs than A.M.s. You would be annoyed that in Hindu culture there is no word meaning divorce or talaaq. The words used now are just formed to mean that. Simply because the concept didn't exist in that culture.
Okay, now after all the talking I want to explain this is a business terms, may be it would help the west side to apprehend. You know there is something called a brand value. Its like when you go to a Nike showroom, go through all the assortments and then choose which one you want, whether you want for jogging, basketball etc. You may not like all the textures, or styles but you know it gonna give you back what it worth. You make some adjustments for the style if needed as you go for the durability.
On the other hand, you may also see a very attractive, stylish shoe on a China market, you were it feel comfortable and buy it. Now, if you are lucky that might last as long as a Nike shoe, or it might give up in a week. But the moment you tried it at the store, you know you wanted that.
Hope you get the point, simply by putting up with someone for 1 year doesn't guarantee you know the person inside out, there would be other things that miss out. As far as I have seen people, that 1 or 2 year all those guys do is impress each other. The problem starts when they take those actions for granted.
Whereas in arranged marriage, you know its done, you have to put up with it. Well I agree its almost always the girl at the receiving end, we have to work on that. And believe me, with the kind of rituals we have in a Hindu tradition, you wont go for a second marriage. You know the marriage lasts for a fucking 10 days? And forget about the amount of money spent.
Having said all that, I would still like to go for a love marriage, if I find someone who can love me. But if not arranged marriage is not a curse, it's a blessing in disguise.
The midwest accent(?)
Well I am not giving a thorough analysis of the midwest accent here. But there is a particular "sound" that is made by these people here in states like Kansas, Missouri ( I even heard in Wisconsin) etc. This is used in place of "Pardon"(most polite) or even "Dint get ya"(less polite version) and it goes like "Haen" or "Hayn". I don't know might have to see a dictionary :)/
But anyway, it sounds kinda rusty and impolite.. If its back in India, I would say little Dehati. Which as a matter of fact may be true here, because as compared to the places in east coast or the west coast areas these places are "Dehati".
:: No offense meant.
But anyway, it sounds kinda rusty and impolite.. If its back in India, I would say little Dehati. Which as a matter of fact may be true here, because as compared to the places in east coast or the west coast areas these places are "Dehati".
:: No offense meant.
Monday, May 28, 2007
Dowry!!
I wanted to write something, but don't what to write first, where to start. Some of my cousins got married and the news kinda triggered this whole thought process altogether. Well my first cousin got married to a lawyer. He demanded 1 lac Rs and a bike, which we have duly provided. The fact is that guy is theoretically less qualified than my sister. That is if you look at the qualifications list. Anyways my uncle didn't want her to get a good job and all those pathetic Indian tradition of being a male-oriented society, which I am too lazy to describe her.
The point what kind of looser takes money to get married? Fuck if he doesn't marry he would pay to get a maid and pay again for the other "thing". But as in India people think girls are burden to the family, even the girl thinks so; there is less chance that nobody will make money out of it. My problem is I would never be able to respect that guy, because I had to pay him to marry my cousin. That kind of makes me feel that I had bought him. Pardon me if I sound egoistic but that's it.
Now coming to another scenario, one of my other cousin (brother) got married to an IT officer's daughter. And apparently with the wealth her father has this guy got a flat, a car and 3 lacs in his bank account. So there is a rave about that in the close relations. That kind of diverted the minds of those who are looking for a bride for me. As I am fully dependent on an arranged marriage, I am totally scared of this advancement. Because, I fear they might search for the money and not a match. As per me, I can earn as much as I want, the only thing I couldn't find in my life so far is a suitable match :(
Okay, now coming to the last marriage(the list is actually in the reverse chronological order); my dearest cousin of the all, got married to her boy friend. In this case you might expect a clean marriage with no money exchange. But no, because of the stupid traditions I talked about earlier.
They had to show the fucking neighbors and the relatives that they got some value, so they had to buy stuff and send it to the groom's even though they don't need it. In any case, half the money was spent by my cousin herself as she self-reliable to the most extent. I could have told her, that the whole thing doesn't make a point. But anyways, as I have learned from my past experience, merely by saying is just that, saying. So I have now change the track and wait. For me to do something and then Say. Holds more ground than just saying.
The point what kind of looser takes money to get married? Fuck if he doesn't marry he would pay to get a maid and pay again for the other "thing". But as in India people think girls are burden to the family, even the girl thinks so; there is less chance that nobody will make money out of it. My problem is I would never be able to respect that guy, because I had to pay him to marry my cousin. That kind of makes me feel that I had bought him. Pardon me if I sound egoistic but that's it.
Now coming to another scenario, one of my other cousin (brother) got married to an IT officer's daughter. And apparently with the wealth her father has this guy got a flat, a car and 3 lacs in his bank account. So there is a rave about that in the close relations. That kind of diverted the minds of those who are looking for a bride for me. As I am fully dependent on an arranged marriage, I am totally scared of this advancement. Because, I fear they might search for the money and not a match. As per me, I can earn as much as I want, the only thing I couldn't find in my life so far is a suitable match :(
Okay, now coming to the last marriage(the list is actually in the reverse chronological order); my dearest cousin of the all, got married to her boy friend. In this case you might expect a clean marriage with no money exchange. But no, because of the stupid traditions I talked about earlier.
They had to show the fucking neighbors and the relatives that they got some value, so they had to buy stuff and send it to the groom's even though they don't need it. In any case, half the money was spent by my cousin herself as she self-reliable to the most extent. I could have told her, that the whole thing doesn't make a point. But anyways, as I have learned from my past experience, merely by saying is just that, saying. So I have now change the track and wait. For me to do something and then Say. Holds more ground than just saying.
A Confession
Time for a little confession. Off-late I have been sounding a little preachy. It has been for quite sometime now, as per my blogs it has been like this forever. Instead for describing my own feelings or the situations I have been dwelling into the human psychology more often. Writing in 3rd person tone accounts for the same. Not that I feel a lot of people out there read my "precious" blogs but I am too scared to let anyone know how insecure I am inside.
Its an attempt to fool myself and pretend that I am in control of my feelings, my life; which I am not. Not completely. I do things, by my choice. But the choices are sorted out by others.
Its like the Villains in Hindi movies asking "Tum main se koun pehle marna chahega". :)
Anyways, it was too hard to not sound preachy on this blog. Hope I succeeded.
Its an attempt to fool myself and pretend that I am in control of my feelings, my life; which I am not. Not completely. I do things, by my choice. But the choices are sorted out by others.
Its like the Villains in Hindi movies asking "Tum main se koun pehle marna chahega". :)
Anyways, it was too hard to not sound preachy on this blog. Hope I succeeded.
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