Dowry!!

I wanted to write something, but don't what to write first, where to start. Some of my cousins got married and the news kinda triggered this whole thought process altogether. Well my first cousin got married to a lawyer. He demanded 1 lac Rs and a bike, which we have duly provided. The fact is that guy is theoretically less qualified than my sister. That is if you look at the qualifications list. Anyways my uncle didn't want her to get a good job and all those pathetic Indian tradition of being a male-oriented society, which I am too lazy to describe her.
The point what kind of looser takes money to get married? Fuck if he doesn't marry he would pay to get a maid and pay again for the other "thing". But as in India people think girls are burden to the family, even the girl thinks so; there is less chance that nobody will make money out of it. My problem is I would never be able to respect that guy, because I had to pay him to marry my cousin. That kind of makes me feel that I had bought him. Pardon me if I sound egoistic but that's it.
Now coming to another scenario, one of my other cousin (brother) got married to an IT officer's daughter. And apparently with the wealth her father has this guy got a flat, a car and 3 lacs in his bank account. So there is a rave about that in the close relations. That kind of diverted the minds of those who are looking for a bride for me. As I am fully dependent on an arranged marriage, I am totally scared of this advancement. Because, I fear they might search for the money and not a match. As per me, I can earn as much as I want, the only thing I couldn't find in my life so far is a suitable match :(
Okay, now coming to the last marriage(the list is actually in the reverse chronological order); my dearest cousin of the all, got married to her boy friend. In this case you might expect a clean marriage with no money exchange. But no, because of the stupid traditions I talked about earlier.
They had to show the fucking neighbors and the relatives that they got some value, so they had to buy stuff and send it to the groom's even though they don't need it. In any case, half the money was spent by my cousin herself as she self-reliable to the most extent. I could have told her, that the whole thing doesn't make a point. But anyways, as I have learned from my past experience, merely by saying is just that, saying. So I have now change the track and wait. For me to do something and then Say. Holds more ground than just saying.