One of the everlasting debates!

Hmm its hard to get the topic from the title. No, its not the Egg first or the chicken debate. It's the arranged marriage vs. love marriage thing.
Quiet a lot has been heard by me, although I wanted to put my point(s) forward sometimes I never did, precisely because I was not sure. Its like asking you want to eat at home or wanna go out? Kinda depends on the situation ain't so?
Anyway, have heard a lot about the downsides of the arranged marriage, specifically from the Americans rather westerners. You know the same old stuff, "Yeww, you don't get to know the person beforehand whom you want to marry? And you mate on the first day you meet?" Kind of awkward ain't it? Because half of the westerners do so, you know have sex on the first date. Only they don't stay with each other afterwards. One point I would like to make clear here, in arranged marriage, you don't mate on the fist day, speaking about the tradition in my place. It takes a whole 4 days! and till that time the bride is accompanied by one of the family members, to see that she is comfortable at the new place anyway.
Well, the most common plus point of A.M. is that the L.M.s have a greater rate of fall outs than A.M.s. You would be annoyed that in Hindu culture there is no word meaning divorce or talaaq. The words used now are just formed to mean that. Simply because the concept didn't exist in that culture.
Okay, now after all the talking I want to explain this is a business terms, may be it would help the west side to apprehend. You know there is something called a brand value. Its like when you go to a Nike showroom, go through all the assortments and then choose which one you want, whether you want for jogging, basketball etc. You may not like all the textures, or styles but you know it gonna give you back what it worth. You make some adjustments for the style if needed as you go for the durability.
On the other hand, you may also see a very attractive, stylish shoe on a China market, you were it feel comfortable and buy it. Now, if you are lucky that might last as long as a Nike shoe, or it might give up in a week. But the moment you tried it at the store, you know you wanted that.
Hope you get the point, simply by putting up with someone for 1 year doesn't guarantee you know the person inside out, there would be other things that miss out. As far as I have seen people, that 1 or 2 year all those guys do is impress each other. The problem starts when they take those actions for granted.
Whereas in arranged marriage, you know its done, you have to put up with it. Well I agree its almost always the girl at the receiving end, we have to work on that. And believe me, with the kind of rituals we have in a Hindu tradition, you wont go for a second marriage. You know the marriage lasts for a fucking 10 days? And forget about the amount of money spent.
Having said all that, I would still like to go for a love marriage, if I find someone who can love me. But if not arranged marriage is not a curse, it's a blessing in disguise.